The Dichotomy Of Experience
I was caught the other night in what could only be described as a classic “Shower Thought”.
There are a lot of experiences men and women share.
A lot of them are perceived similarly…. Driving, maybe eating a meal, bowling.
Some of them are perceived differently, but usually there’s something thrown in that makes the actual situation different for each. For instance, a husband and wife could go to the same hospital at the same time, but really, it’s the mother giving birth, and the father feeling a bit helpless or faint.
I think there’s very few circumstances as similar and as opposite at the same time, as the classic “Bar Scene”.
Men and women both go in to socialize, both go in to maybe meet someone new, both go in to possibly dance, and probably drink. Both men and women go in alone or with friends. The “set-up” or inputs are very much the same for each.
And yet, the experiences lived by men and women are as dissimilar in the “Bar Scene”, as pretty much any other situation I can think of.
Think how different the bar scene is for men compared to women. We all go in for similar reasons. Yet, almost any women can go in on any night, and if she really wanted to, she wouldn’t have to buy a drink all night. If a guy tried that, he just wouldn’t drink. A woman will get hit on probably pretty consistently. A guy…. Not so much. Women can get up and dance in a group or with other women friends. Guys? You just don’t see that.
I’m thinking, overall, there is no scene or situation, where the experiences between men and women are so different while the inputs are so similar. As a guy, we all walk out of bars or clubs and feel what we just experienced, was the experience. And we just assume others had similar experiences. I don’t think we actually realize how different a female’s experience is to that same exact situation.
Shower thoughts…. They’re not always relevant
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David S. Chorney
This is where I'm supposed to write something about myself. I still have some hair left. I am still undecided which I like better, photography or painting. My four major food group are seafood, melted cheese, pasta, and Advil. I love the hunt of a finished piece of art. All quotes, essays, stories, and any other written piece on this website, are original and written by yours truly, unless otherwise noted.